Esther Safran Foer, I WANT YOU TO KNOW WE'RE STILL HERE

Esther Safran Foer, I WANT YOU TO KNOW WE'RE STILL HERE

Esther: Yes, I think so, maybe because so much of it was unknown, maybe because I grew up with no grandmothers, with no aunts and uncles, no first cousins. People around me that I went to school with had all of those things. I was always digging. Maybe it was because my parents wouldn't talk about it. You always want to know what they won't tell you. I was always digging. I'm still digging. My memory jars, as they are, which look a little like an art installation in my living room, include jars that have dirt from mass graves but also from beautiful times. My seven-year-old grandson brought me back a baggy of sand from a trip to Greece because I don't have that and he wanted to share his memory with me. A lot of them are really beautiful happy memories. When one of our sons got married, I decorated the plate. You know the tradition of breaking a plate. The two mothers break a plate. It's a family commitment to the couple, to the marriage. After we broke the plate, I thought, oh, that’ll be perfect in a jar. It's a beautiful memory every time I look at it.

Adrienne Bankert, YOUR HIDDEN SUPERPOWER

Adrienne Bankert, YOUR HIDDEN SUPERPOWER

Adrienne: We're all looking for our pot of gold, whatever that means. It may not actually be gold. It may be something else, but we're all looking for it. One of the biggest lessons I've learned is that for me personally, when you hide who you are, when you hide your gifts, you're doing a disservice to everybody else. I think sometimes we try to be either too nice or we try to fit into this mold or we try to do the right thing. When we're just ourselves and stop hiding behind what we think should be, we are a lot more satisfied and fulfilled. It doesn't matter what you do in life, any industry, for the love of god, everybody stop hiding. That would be the mantra for this year. Stop hiding. Get out there. Show people what you're working with.

Maria Quiban Whitesell, YOU CAN’T DO IT ALONE

Maria Quiban Whitesell, YOU CAN’T DO IT ALONE

Maria: I couldn't have done what I did, we couldn't have gone through what we've gone through and continue to go through today without our family counselor, our village I like to say. I know that I couldn't have done it alone. I think that's why we decided to title the book You Can't Do It Alone. You need to have a village. You need to find your people. I know some people might be saying, you know what, I don't have family, I don't have a circle of friends like you did, Maria. I say, you're actually wrong because of this, we have technology. We have the ability to actually find our village ourselves. I encourage you to do that because it's really important for your heart, for you, and for the people who are helping you. Don't deprive them of helping you because helping does heal. It feels good to help other people. Please invite that in your life.

Donna Hemans, TEA BY THE SEA

Donna Hemans, TEA BY THE SEA

Donna: For me, I think that what I learned from an MFA program is really how to read. It's not necessarily so much how to write. I think the biggest part about writing, really, is knowing how to read your own work and knowing when to edit, when to stop editing, what to take out, and really understanding how a reader reads and understands your story. I think that's what I got from an MFA program. By the numerous workshops that I had to take, I heard what other people were saying about my work, what they were looking for. After a certain point, I began to anticipate those things myself. I would look at something that I wrote and ask myself whether somebody else would understand it. What else do I need to say? How much more do I need to explain? Am I explaining too much? That's how I really understood how to pace a story, more by learning how to read it as opposed to really being taught how to write.

Maria Russo, HOW TO RAISE A READER

Maria Russo, HOW TO RAISE A READER

Maria: Yes, exactly. This is what people do to kids all the time. I'm a huge fan of librarians because librarians actually are on the cutting edge of this stuff. They know. They know the research and they watch kids. There are many librarians in this country who are rebelling and refusing to shelve their books by reading level. A lot of this that we've inherited, it's almost like it just won't leave our consciousness that got in there in the sixties and the seventies. We're all still responding to outdated ideas and notions. Another good one is the idea that comic books and graphic novels are not real books. If your kid is really into reading only graphic novels, well, that's not really reading. That doesn't count. That's ridiculous, especially in this culture we're in. It's such a visual culture. When images and words work together, it's even more powerful. Again, this was what was so great about doing this book. We got to really look at the research. The research shows that -- they did MRIs on the brains of kids who are reading. A kid who's reading a text with only words, one side of the brain is really lit up and working, and that's great.

Special Re-Release: Jamaica Kincaid, PARTY

Special Re-Release: Jamaica Kincaid, PARTY

Jamaica: How I wrote the story, if you read the story, is that I was making fun of … what we now call -- I didn't have this word for it at the time -- white privilege. The idea of, first of all, of these well-off girls who had lived comfortably some place in New Jersey. They were white. They had nothing in their lives, really. They would look for something wrong. There was something never really wrong. The wrong was an invention. In my story, I was making fun of the nothingness that was in the [Nancy Drew] books.

Special Re-Release: Jewell Parker Rhodes, BLACK BROTHER, BLACK BROTHER

Special Re-Release: Jewell Parker Rhodes, BLACK BROTHER, BLACK BROTHER

Jewell: When I was writing Ghost Boys, I learned that children of color, even starting at toddlers in preschool, were suspended disproportionately to white kids, sent to juvie hall or prison disproportionately to white kids, and were punished more harshly pretty much all across the United States. In fact, the zero-tolerance policy that some schools have literally makes it that if a child talks back, they can go to juvenile detention. When you go to juvie, the criminal justice laws are completely different. The judge has an incredible amount of power because now you're considered a delinquent. The judge can decide, "We're going to let you stay in juvie for six months." So Black Brother, Donte, he slams down his backpack because he's been accused of something he didn't do, and they cart him off to jail. Donte has privilege. He's rich. His mom's a lawyer. His dad is in computer sciences. And so they're able to fight this. He actually goes to the courthouse, and he makes the association that if you're impoverished, how much more difficult it is to fight this kind of zero-tolerance, school-to-prison pipeline.

Dr. Casandra Henriquez, PRINCESS ZARA'S BIRTHDAY TRADITION

Dr. Casandra Henriquez, PRINCESS ZARA'S BIRTHDAY TRADITION

Dr. Casandra Henriquez: Just think about it. How do we learn about black people in history? They were slaves. MLK did some good things, but he was assassinated. Malcolm X, assassinated. When we talk about all these amazing things that black people did, it's like this counteract to oppress us in the narrative. Even to that school that I emailed, Zibby, I asked them, I said, "Do you teach about the African kings and queens?" The people were taken as slaves from Africa. More than likely, they were royalty. Africa is a rich country. What do you do to highlight that? Then the response was, "Well, I don't know if schools cover African history." I'm like, "Well, they need to." If the only back narrative of America, black starting here, is slavery, I need you to take it one step back to help paint the full picture. Right now as a white child sitting in a classroom, I learn, black and white, you couldn’t eat, you couldn't drink water, you couldn't do what I did, so you're not as good as me. Maybe things got done, but when we talk about race in the classroom, it's usually, this is what was wrong with black people and why they couldn't do what the white kids did. If I'm white, I'm like, oh, okay. Then the black kids are like, oh, man, I couldn't do that? So then the black parents at home have to do this extra reprogramming of, you're so beautiful. Black is beautiful. Let me buy you dolls. Let me tell you how gorgeous you are. Let me tell you how smart you are. The parents have to do all the extra emphasis. The churches have to do, God loves all. Everyone is equal. The synagogues, everybody has to do all of this extra work that if our schools really started to teach our children properly in terms of creating equity, I think we'd be much further. Literally, a hundred percent of our future starts with our children.

Special Re-Release: Glory Edim, WELL-READ BLACK GIRL

Special Re-Release: Glory Edim, WELL-READ BLACK GIRL

Glory: This all started from me developing this community, Well-Read Black Girl, online. I had this love for books that I had read in my childhood and at my college, Howard University. I wanted to share that same feeling of being this well-read, educated, vivacious, curious black girl in the world. I felt like there weren’t enough representations of black characters. By starting a book club, starting this online platform on Instagram and Twitter, I was able to pull everyone together. We were just sharing the love of our first books, whether it was Toni Morrison or Alice Walker or Maya Angelou. We were having these great conversations about what it means to be in a black woman in the world and what it means to be sometimes feelings a little bit isolated and how we can come together and change the perceptions of what it meant to be a black woman. It really, really started because my partner made me this shirt that said Well-Read Black Girl. I would wear it on the subway. People would start having conversations with me and talking to me. I was like, there is something here. I want to really elaborate and expand what this means to be a well-read person. Now it's turned into this whole literary movement from that one shirt and that one idea. It's really grown into this whole other new experience.

Brad Montague, BECOMING BETTER GROWNUPS

Brad Montague, BECOMING BETTER GROWNUPS

Brad: I had this thought of what it would be, just cute things kids would share, like the Kids Say the Darndest Things kind of idea of, they said a word wrong and it's silly. There is that where kids are funny and they're brilliant and creative and so hilarious. One kid blew my mind. It was actually a Skype conversation with a classroom. This kid had this very serious look on his face. Then he raised his hand. The teacher said, "Okay, you've got the microphone. Tell Brad." Then he went, "You know, sharks probably aren't afraid of other sharks." I thought, whoa, I've never thought about that. Still, I think about that sometimes. [laughs] When I would pose the question, "What would it look like to be a great grownup? Tell me about a great grownup. I want to be a great grownup, so tell me," they wouldn't skip a beat. They would immediately tell me about somebody in their lives that -- I was thinking it would be them telling me something huge, like somebody who bought them a pony and took them on a giant trip, but it was always little things. It was about the way that their mom would pick them up from school. There was a story one kid gave about going to the park with his uncle and that that was a regular thing. He loved rolling down the hill and making him laugh. It was this incredible reminder that all they want is for the grownups in their lives to see them. Then when I started sharing that, I realized that there was actually neuroscience to prove that, that there was developmental psychology that had shown that that's what helps us grow. The active ingredient in all of our developments is love, and not just one big grand gesture of love, but over time, every day, just little bitty bits of love. For me, it made me show up differently in my house with my kids. It made me, whenever I saw my friends who were stressing out about being parents or saw teachers, to just be able to let them relax their shoulders and let them know, hey, you don't have to be spectacular. You already are. Just your presence of looking them in the eyes and listening is going to change everything.

Leslie Gray Streeter, BLACK WIDOW

Leslie Gray Streeter, BLACK WIDOW

Leslie: What's so interesting to me is that I wanted to make the book about being a widow from my perspective. It's just the way my life is. We had a lot in common, like All My Children. We had things that were not in common, like our races or our religion. Those just kind of go into our story, not in a neon sign way, but that's just part of my life. I think that there were people who read it who were like, does it have to be so much about race? I'm like, yeah, because that's part of what it was. It's not about race, but it is in a way because that's part of our existence. Also, it's a way that people responded to us when we walked into a room together or did not respond because they didn't think that we were together because they're dumb. It was 2015.

Victoria James, WINE GIRL

Victoria James, WINE GIRL

Victoria: I thought if I kept working in better places that the environment would become better, but I just found that it seemed almost the fancier the restaurant, the more toxic the culture. For a while, I was writing just as my own sort of therapy to work through a lot of the sexism and misogyny I faced. Then after a while, it was like, I think that maybe this could be a book. There's a difference between writing for yourself and putting all of your embarrassing moments out there. What really inspired me to do so was that I became a leader, a partner at Cote, this restaurant. I saw how many young women looked up to me for guidance and to be this role model. I realized that I was one of the few women in wine that was in a position to write this book because unfortunately, a lot of women in wine and restaurants still face a lot of pushback. They don't have the luxury of writing a book like this because they need to get a job. I figured if I didn't write it, who would? It's not just my story. It's so many women's stories. It's a narrative I think a lot of women, anyone who's ever worked in a restaurant or public service, can definitely relate to.

Wally Lamb, I KNOW THIS MUCH IS TRUE

Wally Lamb, I KNOW THIS MUCH IS TRUE

Wally: First of all, I would quibble on how gifted I am or not. I always feel sort of apologetic about anything that I've written. I hate it when I'm giving a reading of a book that I've published, sometimes years before, and I hate it when people are sitting in the audience reading along from their copy of the book because I'm still fixing it in front of the microphone. I'm changing this and that and everything because I feel that my writing is imperfect. As far as how I started, I didn't want to be a writer. I talked to a lot of writers who were journaling when they were eight, nine years old. That wasn't me. I was too busy plopped in front of the TV watching things. I did always draw. I love drawing still. When I wasn't watching TV, I was drawing, and sometimes doing both at the same time. I think without realizing, that was my leg up into preparing to be a fiction writer. I wasn't really such a lonely kid, but I was a solitary kid. Occasionally, I would be cast in some fantasy thing that my sister and their friends would be -- one time, they were nurses at a hospital. They let me play with them so that I could be the patient and they could give me shots. They would stick comment pins into my arm and stuff like that. Other than that, I would kind of be an observer of their weird games and play.

Jeanine Cummins, AMERICAN DIRT

Zibby Owens: I was thrilled to do a book club with Jeanine Cummins. I host a virtual book club every Tuesday at two where the group talks about the book. Then the author comes and joins us for a Q&A for a half an hour at the end. It's called Zibby's Virtual Book Club. It's on Bookclubz. That ends in a Z. You can join on my Instagram bio, on my website, Zibby Owens, or just to go bookclubz, with a Z, .com, and it's right there at the top. I got to interview Jeanine Cummins on May 26th, which was amazing because I first thought I was interviewing her in October when I originally wrote some podcast questions for her. Then there was a huge media firestorm, which you may or may not be aware of. Her book, American Dirt, when it came, out raised a whole slew of controversy around who is able to tell the stories of people who are in the books. This was a Latina-based story about migrant workers. Because Jeanine is not herself a migrant from Mexico, there was a lot of pushback on whether or not she was the one to have written this book. It escalated into death threats and just a huge, huge big deal in the literary world and farther. American Dirt was chosen as Oprah's book pick. Thank goodness Oprah did not back down and stood by her word. It's been a best seller for weeks and weeks, which it should be because I think American Dirt is one of the best books I've ever read. I believe that in fiction, part of fiction is being able to take on whatever voice you want. It's an act of imagination and empathy.

 

I wrote an article for medium.com in which I came out publicly supporting Jeanine Cummins months ago when this whole thing was blowing up. Even though ten thousand people on Twitter sort of turned against me, I stand by my defense that I wrote for writers to write whatever they want in fiction as long as they do so with sensitivity and research and all the rest, which Jeanine absolutely did. Anyway, I was delighted to have her on my book club. Listen to the thirty minutes of Q&A we did. I literally finished this book club and sat at my desk and smiled for a minute, which is the longest I usually sit still, because I was just so excited to have connected with her on this level and have been able to share her story after so much. Enjoy it. I hope you do. I really did. Listen. It's worth listening to. Thanks. Oh, and by way of bio, Jeanine is the author of three other books, novels The Outside Boy and The Crooked Branch and the best-selling memoir A Rip in Heaven and now, of course, the best-selling novel American Dirt. She lives in New York with her husband and two children. Now enjoy it.

 

Thanks for joining.

 

Jeanine Cummins: You're welcome. Thank you for having me. I'm sorry that I accidentally eavesdropped on the last couple of comments.

 

Zibby: Uh-oh, you're in trouble now. [laughs]

 

Jeanine: I didn't know how to announce myself. I was clearing my throat over here.

 

Zibby: Sorry. I'm sorry. Usually, I can see when somebody new pops up. I couldn't this time. Thank you for joining our group. For one second, I just want to unmute everybody because I feel like you deserve a huge round of applause for this amazing book. Wait, hold on, I'm muting. Not to be hokey. Hold on. Unmute all.

 

[applause]

 

Jeanine: Thank you.

 

Zibby: Sorry to be hokey, but I feel like you deserve a lot more than that. This book is one of the best books I've ever read. I'm just delighted to be able to talk to you about it.

 

Jeanine: Thank you. Can I say something before we start related to the last comment that I accidentally eavesdropped on? I think it's Jill Whitty. Hi, Jill. I haven't done a lot of these book clubs yet. I'm so excited to just be dipping my toe back in the water. It's really great to hear how people are actually responding to the book itself. I have found it interesting that a couple of different people have responded in a very similar way, Jill. They felt that the ending was a little bit too, it was a bit of happy ending, which really surprises me every time I hear that because in my mind, it's not a happy ending at all. Lydia has been reduced into this funnel of a human. All of the promise and the richness of the life that she had in Acapulco is no longer available to her. Yes, they are in relative safety now. There is much to be said for that.

 

I never meant to give the impression -- I think I probably wasn't careful enough about this because several people have responded in this way, that they thought the ending was like, oh, happy ending, when in fact what I hoped to provoke with that epilogue was the notion that there are Lydias all around us. The people that we don't think of asking, where did you come from, how did you get here, why did you leave your home place, those people may have been scientists or doctors or accountants or bookstore owners before they came to this country. Quite often now, they're doing something very different. I hoped to sort of draw that connection with the epilogue. It's interesting to hear how readers respond to that. It's helpful to me as well, as a writer, to think, I guess I should be more careful about that next time. [laughs]

 

Zibby: You didn't eavesdrop over the five thousand other positive comments before where we were talking about different things that we really enjoyed about the book. One thing that people had a question about together was the use of the Spanish language interspersed throughout the text. What made you decide to do that? What was the goal of including that when obviously not everybody speaks Spanish? Tell us a little more about that.

 

Jeanine: It was very difficult for me to figure out a pattern, how I would include the Spanish. I wanted to include Spanish. Spanish was my first language. I was born in Spain. My father is Puerto Rican. I'm no longer fluent in Spanish, I should also say. My Spanish is quite [Spanish]. It's quite fail. It's not good, but I try. I enjoy using Spanish. I felt like the use of Spanish in the book, it just felt right to me. It took me a while to hit on a pattern that I felt comfortable with. Ultimately, I think what we ended up doing was every time there is the beginning of a new conversation or any time they meet someone new, the first line of dialogue is in Spanish. Then it shifts into English, hopefully giving the impression that, in fact, the whole book is taking place in Spanish. Obviously, I couldn't write the whole book in Spanish. That was that. A lot of the swear words and colloquialisms are also in Spanish, things that weren’t easily translatable.

 

Zibby: One other quick question people had that I didn't want to forget is, do you think it was accidental that Javier wandered into the bookstore and befriended Lydia? Was it because her knew about her husband and his job already?

 

Jeanine: Oh, gosh, you guys should all be writers. What a great question that is. No, it was purely accidental in my mind. There was no nefarious reason behind that initially. He just was genuinely a book lover and fell in love with her shop. That was it.

 

Zibby: How amazing to actually have an answer. We all sit around and debate that for five minutes, and here we go. [laughs] Talk to me about the numbness that Lydia was feeling throughout this book in the aftermath of all of this. At one point you wrote, "Like a government furlough, god has deferred her nonessential agencies," and that's sort of how she got through. Talk to me a little about how you created that sense of numbness for Lydia and how it can ever end.

 

Jeanine: There were things that happened quite organically in the writing of this book that I had no control over and that I really could not recreate if I had to do it again. The main one being that three and a half years into the writing of the novel, my father died very unexpectedly. He was young. He was in the prime of his life. He died at the dinner table. That grief just sent me reeling. I've had trauma in my life before. I've had very significant trauma in my life. Something about that loss, losing my dad in that way was just incapacitating for me. I put the book away. It was my second draft at that stage. I had probably seventy-five thousand words. I put it away. I didn't write. I couldn't even read for a few months because I was on the couch in my robe. By the way, this happened the week before the 2016 president election, so it was a very difficult time. I felt in a lot of ways that all the decency has been extinguished from the world at once. Anyway, when I began to emerge eventually a few months later, I dragged my laptop into bed with me one day, and I wrote the opening scene of American Dirt. The seventy-five thousand words that I had written went in the garbage. I never returned to that draft. I started from there. A few weeks later, I rented a casita in the middle of the desert in the borderlands outside of Tucson. I stayed there for eight days, and I wrote almost half the book in eight days. Then for there, I went home back to my family, and I finished the book in about eight months.

 

I had been steeping in this research for three and a half or four years by that point. I had gone to Mexico. I had visited the casas de inmigrante. I had visited orphanages. I volunteered at a desayunador, which like is a soup kitchen for migrants. I had done so much fieldwork and research. Then I had the characters in my head. Then when I had the grief, it all just came thundering out of me very quickly. The result of that experience is that much of what exists on the page is my own grief in real time. One of the things I didn't recognize about the characters until the book was finished was that every one of them is grieving for their father. It's so obvious now. At the time, it just came out that way. I've had several experiences in my own life where I have had a trauma that sort of supersedes a grief. The experience of writing that numbness for Lydia, her basic fundamental need to get through the day and keep Luca safe trumps her sorrow, at least temporarily. That was an experience that felt very familiar to me because of my own life.

 

Zibby: I'm sorry to hear about the passing of your dad in that way and the effect on you. That's awful. I know many people in this club have had similar losses. Our hearts go out to you. How amazing you can channel it into this book. Sorry, go ahead, please.

 

Jeanine: Thank you. It means a lot. One of the things about grief is that I believe it can act like a springboard. In this case, I think it did. It pushed me past a lot of my reservations about writing this book because I found myself in a place where I just so wanted to write the book I thought my dad would be proud of. That really liberated me from a lot of my worry that had been holding me back for three and a half years. Then just an aside, a dad-related aside, last night this book was a question on Jeopardy. My dad watched Jeopardy every single night of his life. My sister and my brother and mom, everyone had exactly the same reaction, which was, oh, my god, Dad would have fallen out his chair. This is the most exciting thing ever. It was a crazy, surreal moment. It brought me back to that sense that despite everything that's happened with this book and how difficult it has been at times, I do think it's a book my dad would be proud of. I feel good about that.

 

Zibby: You should feel good. I think anyone's dad would be proud of this book. I'm about to rip your name off and put mine on it and see if I can make my dad proud. [laughs] Not to make light of any of this stuff, but you had already written a memoir about your own trauma and what happened on the bridge and all of that. That alone would be enough to fuel enough intensity for a novel with everything that you've been very open about. I'm curious about the period of time when you felt like you were held back before the grief when you had already been so open. Does writing each book require kind of a reset button? What do you think that was about?

 

Jeanine: I think so. There were other things about this book. I'm sorry, I'm outside on my deck, so I hope it's not too loud with the motorcycles driving by. It's louder inside where my children are, so I chose the better option. I had a lot of concerns about my limitations as a writer. I always do going into a new project. In this case, lots of other people shared those same concern, as it turns out. I felt like this was a story that we should all really be more engaged in in this country. It was the story, really, that was moving in my heart, but I was fearful. I was worried about writing it. That fear sat on me for a long time. Those first two drafts that I wrote, those terrible drafts really were very different from the book that became American Dirt. They were round-robin point of view, various perspectives. I resisted going into the migrant's point of view for a long time. I was fearful.

 

All the time that I spent in the borderlands, the people who I met who have really absconded from their former lives and devoted themselves entirely to being at the border and working to support migrants and protect migrants, people who drive out in the desert on the weekends and leave water, people who are doing pro bono legal work to represent unaccompanied children, people who are documenting human rights abuses along both sides of the border, people who are running the shelters and the orphanages, every time I met a person like that and every time I met a migrant in various stages of their journeys, I felt confronted with my own cowardice in a way. I felt like it's ridiculous to be afraid to write a book when you see what real courage looks like, ultimately. I was still held back by that until my father's passing. There was a lot more going on in this book psychologically for me as the writer than just the difficulties presented in writing a novel and being vulnerable in that way. There were so many layers to my resistance. Ultimately, there were a lot of reasons why they all came crumbling down. After the book came out, even before the book came out, when the book went to auction when there was this big splash in the publishing industry before the book came out, when things started happening in a way that felt very exciting for the book, my immediate thought always was it sucks that my dad is not here to see this because he was my biggest fan. Then I recognized, always, that this book would not exist if my dad was still here because it really is an ode to grief. It is because of him and because of losing him the way that I did that this book is so -- I feel like I'm yammering on.

 

Zibby: Yammering is good. It's so interesting to hear about your personal experience and how this book took the form that it did. I want to talk mostly about the book. I want to ask just one question on, when the book did come into the world and you were hit by this negativity, which I know many joined in me thinking was completely outrageous and I don't want to get into the politics of the whole thing, but just as a work of beautiful, amazing fiction, how did you feel then? Were you thinking about your dad then? What might he have said to you? What got you through that hard time? I'm assuming it was hard. What got you through the backlash that came from this book?

 

Jeanine: I had a lot of support, thank god. I have a great husband. I have a great family. I think it would've killed my dad anyway. It really was very personal. A lot of the criticism was not that much about the book. It was really about me as a person and my integrity, or at least that's the way it felt in the beginning. There are certain parts of that that I'm glad he didn't have to witness. I do think that I was tremendously lucky in so many ways, to have the support of Oprah. She has the courage of her convictions. She didn't back down. She stood by me. She stood by the book. Many of the writers who supported me continued to support me publicly. I also had a deluge of private support of people who didn't want to wade into the controversy for various reasons but were texting me and emailing me to say, don't let it get you down.

 

I will just say, as we are talking about it, that I think it's important -- I feel like it's really, really simple for people to choose sides and to either go all in on the controversy or be very dismissive of it. With a bit of distance, I think I'm able to see, and I want to be a voice to articulate this thing, that the conditions were exactly right for this controversy to happen. That is because there are tremendous inequities in the publishing industry. This had been a very long-simmering, long-ignored, overdue conversation that really needed to happen, a reckoning that needed to happen in the publishing industry so that we will begin to elevate Latino voices, so that we will begin to pay attention to these stories in a way that feels more equitable and significant. I really feel like, in large part, the criticism was more about that than it was specifically about my book.

 

Zibby: At least the fact that it continues to be a best seller should serve as some sort of consolation. Although, I'm sure nothing can make up for what's ended up happening in the interim. Just had to address that in some way. I'm so glad that you had the support that you needed. That's great. I think there's so many authors who struggle to encapsulate other points of view. Your being a leader in how to do that and what happens when maybe that doesn't go so well is really a powerful position to be in. People are trying to, by writing, do all these amazing things and share stories and perspectives. As you said in the beginning of your book, the most important thing you said you want readers to take away is that "Migrants are human beings. They don't need our pity or contempt. They deserve fundamental human empathy. They are like us." If that was your goal, then you can check that off.

 

Jeanine: Thank you. I also think that this conversation about who gets to tell what stories is a really important one. It's one that I hope that book clubs all over the country are beginning to grapple with because if we don't figure that out, if we can't all come to agreement on that, we're going to have a problem with fiction. I fundamentally believe that fiction writers have to have absolute liberty to write whatever stories move in their hearts. I also feel like fiction writers have a responsibility to themselves and to their readers, if they're going to cross cultural boundaries, to do so with sensitivity and care. Ultimately, I think it should be for the reader to decide whether or not that endeavor is successful.

 

Zibby: Interesting. One aspect of the book that we all discussed before you joined was how you had Lydia be someone who hadn’t been a migrant herself and then fell into that position. You wrote about that so beautiful, how all her life she's pitied those poor people. She's donated money. She's wondered with the sort of detached fascination of the comfortable elite, how dire the condition of their lives must be. You said, also, while she was chopping onions and cilantro in her kitchen while she listened to the stories on the radio, she felt a pang of emotion for them and the injustice, but when she realized she was out of garlic, the pang was subsumed by domestic irritation. Then next thing you know, she's in it. Tell us about how you decided to make it this not -- you could've approached this in so many different ways, her migrant experience. Why from here to there? How did you structure that?

 

Jeanine: It's easy to look back and say I did all these things on purpose and here's why. In fact, when you're writing the novel, things emerge that you don't intend on emerging. Lydia came to be in very much that way. She didn't exist in either of the two previous drafts that I had written. Luca was there, but Lydia was not. When she showed up in that shower stall the very first day that I tried to write after my father died, she was fully formed. She came to me as herself. Now I look back at that, the creation of her, and I feel like I like her as a lens for the reader because I don't think I could've written the entire story from Rebeca and Soledad's point of view. I think that would've been a bridge too far for me. I think that Lydia, because she's so familiar to me, because her life looks very much like my life, she's able to serve almost as a translator or an interpreter for the reader. She notices everything that's going on around her in a way that I felt as the writer made the whole journey feel more accessible. I feel like I didn't do that on purpose, but I think that that is her function, actually. I hope that it works in that way for the reader.

 

Zibby: I think it worked. [laughs] I'm not trying to make light of it. We talked in the group, and when I was reading it also, this whole notion of the need to protect your child, and it's so interesting that now it was motivated by the loss of your own parent. I know you do have children yourself. Many of us on here have children. We discussed the need even during this coronavirus time, this mama-bear instinct that has affected us all to just protect, protect, protect, and that's shared with Lydia and her need for protection of Luca. Although, obviously it's in a whole different category and was warranted at that time, completely. Tell us about that aspect of this book, from the minute it started that she was going to protect, that it was about the mother-son relationship there, and maybe how you feel in the context of your own family writing that, if it came from your feelings having lost a parent, to protect a child.

 

Jeanine: I think that very much what's going on in the book throughout the book is an exploration of parental love. It's digging into that relationship that exists between parents and children. When I started writing the book in 2013, my older daughter was close to Luca's age. By the time I finished it, my younger daughter was a little bit older than Luca, close to Luca's age. I was lucky in that I had a little guinea pig living right in my own home for most of those years I was working on the book. They're precocious. They're articulate. They're interesting people, these two children who live in my house. I think that whenever I find a character in a book who is a child who is very interesting, I think more often than not when children are written in adult literature, they're seem a little flat. It was my hope that Luca would read as a fully formed human because that is something that I find lacking often in child characters. I wanted his personality and his personness to be as evident as the other characters in the book. My children certainly were very helpful with that.

 

I do think that the fact that I'm a mother and I have that maternal bond, the fact that I'm a daughter and I have parents who I love, those things helped me to write that relationship. I also feel like it was equally important for me to show the ways that Luca saves her as well, not just that she would move heaven and earth and do whatever she can to make sure that he's safe, but also time and again, the fact that he exists is the thing that saves Lydia. I really feel like that is the universal nugget that exists in any country, in any culture in the world where you have parents and children who love each other. That kind of dynamic, that give and take, that saving of each other, and then also sometimes screaming at each other when you're in quarantine, that it works both ways, the love and they way they buoy each other up and the way they help each other and the way they survive for one another, it's Luca saving her as well.

 

Zibby: Wow. Do you have any advice for aspiring authors?

 

Jeanine: Don't. [laughter] I'm just kidding. I always say if you have any other marketable skills, you can't go wrong by doing anything else. I'm joking, mostly. I think the number-one thing is just to be careful. Take as long as it takes. Don't rush. Take enormous care over what you write because someday you will let go of it. It will go out in the world and people will say things about it. If you're really, really, really lucky, a lot of people will say things about it. Some people will say rapturous, beautiful things. Other people will say very hateful things. At the end of the day, you have to look at that document and feel good about what you wrote. That's the most important thing, is to make sure you write it well enough that whatever happens you can feel in your heart like you did justice to the story that you wanted to tell.

 

Zibby: Do you have any regrets?

 

Jeanine: About this in particular or in general? [laughs]

 

Zibby: I could go into your whole life story, but I think I have to let you go soon. You can spare us the time in college where you went to that party. No. [laughs]

 

Jeanine: Look, yes, I have regrets. I have plenty of regrets. One thing I think I probably do not regret is the story that I wrote. I feel good about the novel. There were things that happened around the publication. There were mistakes that I made. There were mistakes that my publisher made. I wish I hadn’t written the author's note. I will say, the original author's note was one line. The one line was, in 2017, a migrant died every twenty-one hours along the US-Mexico border. That author's note really should have stood to answer every person who said to me, why did you write this book? That is why I wrote the book. Everything else I wrote in that author's note just sort of opened the door, I think, to what happened in certain ways that the book was received. I feel like in a way it was me trying to justify why I wrote the book when really, that one line said it all.

 

Zibby: I am so glad personally that you wrote the book. I know everybody here is really glad you wrote the book. Again, I'm sorry for what happened in the aftermath, but it was amazing. It will remain one of my favorite books of all time, and truly, truly remarkable. I had a million other questions that I and everybody else wanted to ask you. I want to be mindful of your time and just say thank you. Thank you for coming on here and sharing your emotions and your personal loss and your struggles that I know we can relate to. We are all feeling the pain that you feel from that loss. Just thank you. Thank you for writing and being brave and doing it and sticking up for fiction writers and doing what novelists have done since the dawn of time and doing it so beautifully.

 

Jeanine: Thank you, Zibby. Thank you, everyone, for reading the book. Thank you for listening to me. I want to say one more thing before I go which is that I think Zibby shared with you guys, or will share, the link, a fundraiser I am running for the International Rescue Committee. That fundraiser is going to benefit migrants and programs that serve and protect migrants, mostly women and girls, in the borderlands in Northern Mexico. I am matching all donations up to $100,000 until July 31st. I know it's a really difficult time right now to ask people to donate, but if you have the capacity to donate and you can do it, I would be just tremendously grateful. That money will save lives.

 

Zibby: Alicia in the comments already said, I already donated, tweeted, and put it on my Facebook. I did send out the link. You can go back to my email that I sent to all of you before this began, but if you go to Jeanine's website, jeaninecummins.com, it's right there. Click on it. Go to her GoFundMe account. I donated myself. I think this is a super worthy, beyond worthy, this is an essential thing to do.

 

Jeanine: Thank you.

 

Zibby: Thanks, Jeanine. Thanks, everybody, for coming. Thank you. Bye.

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Lily King, WRITERS & LOVERS

Lily King, WRITERS & LOVERS

Lily: The book is about thirty-one-year-old Casey. It is 1997. She's arrived in Cambridge, Massachusetts. She's gotten a job at a restaurant. She's gotten a terrible place to live, a little room at the side of a garage. She's seventy thousand dollars in debt. She's trying to write her first novel. She's just had her heart badly broken. A few months earlier, her mother died. She's a bit of a mess. She's, at age thirty one, trying to figure out how to find the rest of her life, how to put a life together that looks like a grown-up life, but that doesn't mean that she has to lose her dream of becoming a writer.

Mary Beth Keane, ASK AGAIN, YES

Mary Beth Keane, ASK AGAIN, YES

Mary Beth: It's about two families who end up living next door to one another in a suburb of New York City in the seventies. The book spans about forty years. It begins in the seventies. It ends in 2018. They end up living as neighbors. The dads in both houses are cops. They're sort of bonded by what the dads do for a living. The kids become kind of close, but then this tragic event happens that divides the families, they think, forever. Of course, they are not divided forever. That's not a plot spoiler. You can sort of feel it coming in the prose. It's about how the things that happen to us as kids, the traumas of childhoods, how we end up carrying them into adulthood in strange ways even when we think we're long past those things. There's this situation in the story. I think the story is really about love and how it changes and gets tested and morphs over time, who you have to protect within a love relationship, yourself, the person that you're committed to. It's not just romantic love. It's between siblings, parent and children, and all of the above. Basically, it's what we all go through in a messy life and whether it's worth it or not.

Kristy Woodson Harvey, FEELS LIKE FALLING

Zibby Owens: The first author that we're going to talk to is Kristy Woodson Harvey. She's written many books. Her latest is called Feels Like Falling. She's going to be our first speaker. Kristy Woodson Harvey is the best-selling author of Dear Carolina, Lies and Other Acts of Love, Slightly South of Simple, The Secret to Southern Charm, and The Southern Side of Paradise. Kristy is the winner of the Lucy Bramlette Patterson Award for Excellence in Creative Writing. She was a finalist for the Southern Book Prize. Her work has been optioned for film. She also blogs with her mom, Beth Woodson, on Design Chic, which is her Instagram account, about how creating a beautiful home can be the catalyst for creating a beautiful life. She is a Phi Beta Kappa, summa cum laude graduate, which means she did really, really well in school, at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. That was in the School of Journalism. Then she also has a master's in English from East Carolina University, with a concentration in multicultural and transnational literature. She's a member of the Tall Poppy Writers Group, which has a lot of fantastic writers who have been on the podcast. She's a frequent speaker at all sorts of events. She lives in North Carolina with her husband and her seven-year-old son. Her latest book is Feels Like Falling. That's what we're going to talk to Kristy Woodson Harvey about today. Sorry for the long bio, but how impressive is she? Aren't you glad I read it?

 

Kristy Woodson Harvey: Hi. Thank you for having me. I have to let y'all know right off the bat, I am sort of on the Camille train. I live in North Carolina, like you just said. We're having a major thunderstorm. We walked around the house and we're like, what's quiet? Hopefully, it won't be loud. It's kind of dying down, but if you hear something crazy, that's probably what it is.

 

Zibby: It's also a huge storm where I am, so we'll see what happens. What is up? It's bad enough that it's a Monday morning in quarantine. Now we have to have thunderstorms and the dreariest day possible?

 

Kristy: The only thing saving us is the good weather. What are we going to do? [laughs]

 

Zibby: Oh, my gosh. I don't know. Better Monday than Sunday. Who knows? Whatever. I guess it's nice we had a nice day yesterday.

 

Kristy: Yes, yesterday was gorgeous. This is kind of the payback.

 

Zibby: I feel like it's been a hundred years since I met you last summer at Author's Night for the East Hampton Library. That was so nice. You were so radiant. Oh, my gosh, it was so nice to meet you.

 

Kristy: That's nice. It was so fun. I was so excited to meet you. I was fangirling really hard. You probably remember. It was probably embarrassing. I'm sorry. [laughter] That was such a fun night. I'm going back again. I'm really excited to be there next August. Hopefully, I'll see you again.

 

Zibby: I hope that events are still going on in August. Do you think they will?

 

Kristy: I do too. I usually go on a six-week book tour when I have a new book come out. This year, for some reason, some really smart person said, let's split it. We'll do four weeks in April and May and then two weeks in August. I'm hoping that we can at least salvage that August part. If we can't, we can't. I love going on book tour. It's just fun to get to go meet readers and cool people like you.

 

Zibby: I feel terrible for all you guys who can't go on your book tours. It's so sad to get to the finish line of a big project and not be able to celebrate it and make sure it gets into the right hands.

 

Kristy: It's going to be so interesting, though, to just do something completely different and do things like this and see what happens. I feel the worst for people who, this is their first book and they’ve been really waiting to do this book tour. I feel terribly for them because that is so exciting. It's the culmination of all that hard work that you've done and all those years. That is really sad for them. Hopefully, they’ll be able to move theirs. I'm just so grateful they're not moving my book release date. I was afraid that was going to happen, or it was going to have to have happen because we weren’t going to have books. Putting out a book a year, I started thinking about that logistically. I was like, first of all, this is not really a book that you want to come out in November. That's not an ideal time for the beach cover. I started thinking, I was like, oh, my gosh, if it comes out in November, we're already going to be starting promotion for Under the Southern Sky, which is my 2021 book. People are going to be like, enough, we've had enough of you. [laughs]

 

Zibby: That's a pretty great problem to have, is that you're creating so much good content that you can't even figure out how and when to promote it all.

 

Kristy: It's good. It's great.

 

Zibby: Is that your schedule? One book a year every summer?

 

Kristy: I'm not saying I'm married to that for the rest of my life or anything, but it's worked for me really well. We're in the groove. That's how it's going. I kind of have my bearings with that situation a little bit. Actually, oh, my gosh, I'm super grateful that I had a book to be working on because my edits were due two or three days ago on Under the Southern Sky, and so it just gave me something. I was like, it's normal. I'm working. I have to focus on the book. I can't think about all the craziness going on. Focus. Of course, you're thinking about it and feeling terribly about it. It gave me an outlet so I wasn't sitting there watching the news twelve hours a day and all the terrible things going on. I was in my little writing cave for at least a few hours a day focusing.

 

Zibby: What are you going to do now that you've been freed from the cave?

 

Kristy: The new book comes out April 28th. We are scrambling to get this virtual tour put together because it takes like nine months to put these tours together. Then to turn around and put together some semblance of a virtual tour, we will be working nonstop on that. We didn't want to do it too early because, like I said, we didn't know if we were going to have books. I have heard now that the books have shipped to the distributors. At the very least -- I know you feel this way and so I do, I'm a huge proponent of independent bookstores. I love them. They are so amazing. I hope that this is a time when people will choose to support them. We're bored. We're at home. Go buy a book. Pick it up at the curbside. Have them deliver it to your house. They're getting really creative. It's impressive.

 

Zibby: It's true. I went on this walk yesterday, which is the first time I've walked into the town nearby. It was out of desperation. There was one little store that I never really go into. There was a sign on the door. It says, "If you really need a cozy sweater, call this number and we'll drop one off for you." I was like, I could use another cozy sweater. I've worn this one like a hundred times. I think I might have to call. I don't know. We'll see. We'll see what turns up. Anyway, back to you and your book and all of this greatness. Can you hold it up again? Can you explain the plot and what it's about? The plot is so great for this book. It was so good.

 

Kristy: Thank you. Feels Like Falling is a book about Gray and Diana who are two women from very different worlds who come together to form this odd couple friendship. They meet on a day when they're both having a really, really bad day. You know those days where it's just like nothing's going right? Gray is at a point in her life where she could really use some good karma. Diana's at a point in her life where she could really use some good luck. Instead, Gray inadvertently gets Diana fired from her job. It thrusts these two women together that, on the surface, seem to have nothing in common. Sorry, that was a thunderstorm shutter-blow. In reality, they have so much in common. They’ve both lost their mothers, albeit in very different ways. They're both dealing with the loss of a partner. Although, again, in different ways. They're both at a crossroads in their career, which is a major situation in both of their lives. Neither of them know it, but they're both about to embark on a really great love story too. That's always one of my favorite parts.

 

There are a lot of issues that come up in the book. There are a lot of things that these women are dealing with that real women are dealing with. I think it's my funniest book, I hope. I tried to make it. When I was really going through the process of writing this, we were out of our house from Hurricane Florence. I was like, I just need some comic relief in my life. I sort of feel like it was this omen of, we're also going to really be needing some comic relief in our life when this book comes out. I'm happy for that because I do think it's a funny book. I think people can really escape into this book. It's set in the fictional town of Cape Carolina, which is based on Morehead City which is near where I live. You get to see that it's one of those fun, beachy locales. These women are just great. They sort of wormed their way into my heart. I hope that they will for readers too.

 

Zibby: Aw, that's so great. You wrote it during a hurricane. Now it's coming out during a pandemic. What are the odds?

 

Kristy: Am I bad luck? What's going on? I know. It's so strange. Actually, the really funny thing about this book that makes it sort of unusual and different from my other books is that I wrote it in 2016, and it's actually coming out now. I wrote this book. I got contracted for the Peachtree Bluff series. I wrote all three of those books. They came out. Then I spent eight or nine months completely tearing Feels like Falling apart and putting it back together. It was such a cool exercise because I had changed so much in four years. The world had changed so much in four years. The way that I felt about these women and what they would be doing and how they would be handling these situations in their lives completely changed. That was so interesting for me. I try not to go back and read my earlier books just because it kind of makes you cringe a little, I feel like, because you hope that you've grown from book to book. You're like, oh, why did I say that? Why did that character say that? Why did they do that? It was this great opportunity to get to go back and totally rewrite this book for where we are today. I think it's good timing. I really do. I feel like it all worked out the way it was supposed to. I'm glad this book is coming out now and that it didn't come out in 2016 when I wrote it.

 

Zibby: Wow. What about your next book, the one you were just talking about having finished?

 

Kristy: Under the Southern Sky comes out 2021. We don't have a pub date yet. I think April-ish. I'm really excited about this book. It's actually a book that I've been thinking about for five or six years. I haven't really talked about it much. I don't even really know how to tell you about it. Essentially, the protagonist of this story is a man. This is my first male protagonist. I have four female protagonists also. Parker is kind of the center of this book. His wife has passed away three years earlier. When the book is opening, a childhood friend of his who is also a protagonist of this book, has accidentally discovered that these embryos that he's frozen with his dead wife are about to be destroyed because they haven't been able to get in touch with them. It sort of bursts this story wide open about, what do you do? You have this piece of this person who's gone. What's the next right step? There are, of course, a lot of other storylines going on. That's the main one.

 

Zibby: Ooh, wow. That sounds really good. Is it hard for you to come up with ideas? Do you just have a ton? Do you keep a notebook? What's your process like?

 

Kristy: I have a ton. I keep separate Word documents on my computer. Just whenever I have something kind of interesting that comes up, I'll pop it in a Word document. Usually, I don't know where a story's going to go. Even with this one, a friend came to me and said, "I have these embryos. What am I supposed to do with them now?" I just jotted that down, but I didn't know what this story was until I actually sat down and started writing and thought, who are these characters? What are they like? What's happening to them? Even in Feels like Falling, I remember finishing this story. My husband was at a work conference. I had gone with him so I could just finish this book and be done. I met him downstairs for dinner. I was like, "That ended the exact opposite way that I thought it was going to." He was like, "You're the one writing it. What do you mean?" It is just so cool how the characters, they just take over the story. They really come to life. I'm a person, I like to read character-driven stories. I like to write character-driven stories. I do think that's a big part of that. The plot is important, but it's not usually what's on the forefront of my mind. Then narrowing it down and trying to figure out, what is capturing me next, what is it that won't let me go, that won't let me sleep at night because I'm so excited about writing it? that's usually where I go next. A lot of times, I end up sticking a couple stories together at some point. One idea isn't the best one, so it kind of combines with another one. Then it's the right thing. It's a really interesting process.

 

Zibby: Having written all of these books, do you have any advice for aspiring authors? I feel like you've turned this into a system and you have it down.

 

Kristy: What I tell new authors or aspiring authors, it's a business. You have to treat it as such. I feel like the creative part of it is what lights us up and keeps us coming back to it, but the business part of it is what allows us to actually be able to do this as a career. I am very systematic about writing my two thousand words a day. It's the first thing that happens because if I don't have a new book to put out, I don't have a job anymore. That's the most important thing for me. I'm not saying that everyone has to do that. It's whatever schedule works for you, but I think treating it like something real that is really going to happen. You are the queen of talking about this, but finding the time is so difficult. People tell me all the time, I don't have time. I don't have time. I don't have time. I'm like, I get it. I wrote Dear Carolina, I had a two-week-old baby when I got the idea for that book. I would sit in my closet at night while I was breastfeeding and jot down Dear Carolina. That's how Dear Carolina came to life. There was no, I went on this six-week retreat to Italy and wrote this beautiful -- no. Oh, my gosh, no. Books are being written in the midst of dirty diapers and homeschooling now. It's just like everything else. You've just got to get it done.

 

Zibby: You got it. Kristy, thank you so much for coming on. It was so nice to finally get to chat with you. I hope the storm there passes. Thanks for giving us great things to look forward to reading.

 

Kristy: Aw, thank you. Thank you so much for having me. This was so fun.

 

Zibby: It was great chatting.

Nina Renata Aron, GOOD MORNING, DESTROYER OF MEN'S SOULS

Nina Renata Aron, GOOD MORNING, DESTROYER OF MEN'S SOULS

Nina: It is really personal and emotional. It's a memoir. It's sort of laced with cultural history. It's meant to be the first literary memoir about codependency. I grew up in a household with a family member who struggled with addiction. Then it's about largely how that played out in my romantic relationships, subsequent relationships. I had an affair when I was married and young mother with an ex-boyfriend who was a hardcore drug addict who was in and out of sobriety for many years. We were madly, desperately in love. I know a lot of people don't have personal experience with that kind of hardcore addiction. It's also broadly about expectations that women place on ourselves and that throughout history that have been placed upon us culturally and how much of ourselves to give in love, whether it's in any kind of relationship, in motherhood, in our family relationships. Hopefully, it has broader reach beyond just those enjoy a good gritty addiction memoir. I always was reading addiction memoirs my whole life. I never understood why none were written by people who lived in those households and suffered through that. There are resources out there for people who have that experience, but I always was looking for -- I wanted this book, so I had to write it.

Judith Viorst, NEARING NINETY

Judith Viorst, NEARING NINETY

Judith: Milton and I were both married before. We've had sixty years together and three children together and made every mistake and foolish choice and inability to resolve fights in a mature and intelligent way. It's a work in progress. You'll always be a work in progress. We've gotten better and better at it. Actually, COVID-19 is kind of an interesting test. Here we are in the house together. We don't go anywhere except for a walk around the neighborhood. We find that the conversation we started enjoying with each other sixty years ago is still continuing, that we still enjoy reading the papers in companionable silence, and that a glass of his well-selected wine and a nice dinner by me is a lovely way to end the afternoon. We have many, many points of connection. We treasure and protect the marriage. We know that this is something of value. It's what I've called in some writings that I've done, the third thing. It's not about him. It's not about me. It's about this marriage that we are creating together. Sometimes when we're losing a fight or giving in on some issues, it's not, I lost that or I'm compromising. We're feeding the marriage. I think that the marriage as a creation, as something you make together is a very, very valuable way to think about what life is all about.

Phyllis Grant, EVERYTHING IS UNDER CONTROL

Phyllis Grant, EVERYTHING IS UNDER CONTROL

Phyllis: I've been collecting hundreds of recipes for years that I've been developing. It broke my heart a little bit to narrow it down to seventeen. Now it feels like such a relief because each one can have a purpose, either for teaching someone something new, like making tart dough or a template for salad dressing. Start with what's in this book. Then just look around and see what you have. As long as the balance is about the same, you don't need lemon. You can use sherry wine vinegar. You don't need olive oil. You can use coconut oil. What I'm hoping is this gives people a little more confidence to play in the kitchen and not be so rigid and not be so locked into recipes because you don't learn until you step away from the recipes, at least I didn't.