Nefertiti: The funny thing is I'm such a free spirit. Every time my family expects me to go left, I go right. I don't know why they were so surprised. Basically, culturally, we tend to take children we know. We look within. We start with nieces and nephews and grandchildren. If there aren't any children who are in need in those spaces, then often you see a lot of that within churches, with the neighborhood. It's really giving families an opportunity to maintain a unit even if the parents maybe lives down the street or maybe they're not blood related but there is some type of connection. I didn't have that option within my family and because I wanted to adopt. I really had no choice but to go outside my family. The question I still get when I share that my children are adopted, from black people, especially older black people, "Do you know their people?" That's always the first question. "Do you know them? Do you know their people?" Somehow, that makes it easier. People understand that. Oh, okay, this is someone you knew. Okay, we understand that. Whenever I say, "No, I don't know their people. I went the foster care route," I got quite a few double takes. Largely, it's because children in the foster care system are negatively stigmatized. They have a really, really bad reputation, especially in the press. They're kind of written off as the lowest of the low, leftover children, rejects. That couldn't be further from the truth. I just ignored all of that and did it anyway.