Gemma: There is a meeting point in the middle. When I say that I need to take a step back and let (my husband) do it, that doesn't mean that we don't have the same shared standard in what we want our life to look like and how we want things to run, how we want the house to look. We can agree on those things. He can get there a different way. Both men and women have to do the work to bridge that gap. There definitely were deeply held biases that I had. Even while writing the book and researching it, I still thought, “Maybe I'm just better at this stuff. It’s not hard wired, but I have that natural advantage,” which I don't think I do. If I'm logical about it, I know that’s not true.