Abby: I was living a pretty ordinary life. I was thirty years old. I had just turned thirty, woke up on the morning of August 18th, 2012. My husband TC hadn’t come home. That was really unusual. I was married to this incredibly ambitious, focused, very disciplined man. It wasn’t like him to just not come home. I woke up. When our lives are in this moment of absolute transformation our brains do a really good job at putting us in a state of denial about the reality of what was happening. For hours that morning I told myself, it’s unlike him, but he probably went out drinking and slept at a friend’s house. I made up a lot of excuses.